“My hips are huge.”
“”Oh my God, I can’t be seen in a swim-suit!”
“Why only me?”
If we have low self esteem we may not like how we look or may feel unattractive.This is bad news for our self confidence. We need to think and behave differently to feel more attractive.When we suffer with low self esteem many times we create a poor body image and believe that we are unattractive or ugly- completely unable to see how attractive we are because of our lack of confidence and negative self image.What makes a person attractive and beautiful?
Attractiveness is not just about beauty, it also includes:
Personality
Confidence
A beautiful smile
A great sense of humor
Why do we feel unattractive?
There are several reasons why we may feel unattractive. As I have mentioned the number one reason is poor self esteem and lack of confidence. Criticism from others can make us feel very negative and this can increase our poor self esteem and negative self image.Do you indulge in self criticism and negative self talk? This constant inner negativity can cause us feel inferior and unattractive.Many of us have suffered from abuse and this causes us to have a victim mentality and to feel unattractive because of what has happened.Many have suffered rejection in a relationship and need to deal with this or it can cause us to live in self pity.If you are in a relationship which is abusive mentally or physically you need to do something. Either end the relationship or seek help to end the abuse (counselling).
There are some things we can do today to help ourselves feel more attractive:
Start exercising – exercising will make look and feel better.
Show those pearly whites and smile more. You will feel better and others will respond to you in a positive way. You may even get a compliment that will make your day!
Take care of yourself.
Keep yourself clean and well-groomed.
Look after your skin. You will start to glow and others will notice!
Lighten up.
Make jokes and laugh. Humor is attractive.
Talk to yourself positively.
Buy something nice to wear that will make you look better. Something that will make you appear more confident.
DHYAANGURU Dr Nipun Aggarwal,MD, MBA, MHT 